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15 Stunning Images Show What Women Look Like When They Orgasm 

The female orgasm is a beautiful thing, and photographer Albert Pocej captured women at “the highest point of physical pleasure” in a new intimate photo series.

“There are so many fakes and acting in TV and advertising,” Pocej, who has been a photographer for 10 years, told The Huffington Post in an email Monday.

The 15 women featured in the black-and-white series were not professional models, but were willing to take part in the personal project. Pocej used both lapse photography and manual shots during the process to get the perfect shot.

“I wanted to show the real feeling, as real, it gets,” he said. “Every woman being is different, so are their orgasms. I wasn’t trying to make it any better [than] it is in life.”

Can’t do better than that. Scroll below for more stunning images and check out more ofPocej’s work on his website.

Check out more of Pocej’s work on his website

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7 Questions That Will Reveal The Truth About Your Marriage 

I’m a relationship coach and normally when people learn what I do it sparks many conversations and even more questions. A lot of the time I sense they want to know what category their own marriage falls into; reassurance that all is well on the home front or that what is going on for them currently is a normal part of married life.

Those who are very satisfied in their relationship tend to ask the most forthright questions, those who have a sense that something is amiss are a little less willing to ask direct questions. They tend to allude to situations rather than ask outright.

There are many reasons for this, but most often when I manage to break in and gain their confidence it is a sense of not wishing to face the truth, for fear of admitting failure (still society can make divorce seem like a failure), fear of actually having to take some action and finally because they have tried to address the situation with their partner only to be met with a wall of denial, or the “Oh here she goes again” reaction.

When you meet with this type of response it can leave you questioning the validity of your feelings, your own state of knowing, and even your right to live happily, healthy and contentedly in your relationship; so you shut up and put up in the hope that something will change. You often turn your thoughts to happier times, the honeymoon period in your relationship, where everything seemed so perfect. There is hope that somehow by the sheer power of your thoughts you can recreate it; or you future trip about how wonderful it could be when x, y and z changes. You are not living in the present and not being facing your current reality.

I know I’ve been there in my own marriage and it is the story I’ve come to hear again and again in my professional life. What I wish to do is to offer you an insight into the truth of your relationship by laying out some examples of situations I hear time and again in my initial consultation with clients or in those conversations sparked by the introduction of my job title.

When I could get truthful about the state of my marriage I was then able to uncover the reasons why and begin the inner work required to make a shift in my self belief great enough to change the dynamic in my marriage.

Below are seven questions I’d like you to ask yourself – honestly. No justifying or not questioning the truth of you feelings.

Read each statement and let your gut respond for you:

  • Does your partner insist that there is “nothing wrong” with the relationship despite your obvious unhappiness and dissatisfaction?
  • Does your partner make your feel like you are the “real” problem with all your complaining, whining and expectations?
  • Do you feel alone despite the fact that you are in a relationship?
  • Do they feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells, censoring your thoughts, denying feelings and monitoring your behavior in order to maintain some level of peace in your relationship?
  • Do you spend way more time focusing on what you can do to keep your partner happy than you ever spend thinking about your own well-being?
  • Are you questioning your own worthiness and your right to have your own needs met in the marriage?
  • Are you spending the majority of your free time thinking about your relationship or alternatively when thoughts arise you find yourself trying to push them away?

If one or more of these statements strikes a chord then your marriage is currently in a phase of instability. You are certainly investing more to keep the equilibrium than you are in growing the relationship. The extent to which these situations are occurring will have a direct impact on how happy, healthy, safe and loving you find your relationship. It will no doubt be impacting how you feel about yourself and mostly probably will have started to infiltrate other areas of your life.

The good news is you can actually make a positive impact in your relationship, transform it into a happy, healthy, safe and loving space once more – and the even better news is you have already started making that shift, by allowing yourself time to honestly appraise your current relationship status you have opened yourself up to making bigger shifts. It takes the courage to be honest with yourself and the willingness to go inside and work on the relationship with yourself.

In my work I help people make those shifts on a personal level, without the need to involve their partner, because once you have an honest view of the situation and you are ready to face the big “should I stay or should I go?” question – that is your own personal journey of discovery and as such should be undertaken alone.

To know more on how I work and how I can help you email on allison@allisonreiner.comor call my on 0039 3343858412.

Or to get working immediately why not download my 5 step worksheet to help identify where you can begin to make changes, by clicking here. http://eepurl.com/b_6tTb

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An Inside Look At Open Relationships That Will Definitely Surprise You 

There are many templates for what a committed, monogamous, heterosexual relationship should look like. Everywhere we look, we see individuals engulfed in monogamous (generally heterosexual) couple hood which quite often leads to marriage.

I don’t wish to suggest that all these references to such relationships are bad in any way. But what about all of those relationship types that lie outside of this normative way of thinking? For example, those who identify with their more kinky, non monogamous, gender-fluid side? In relation, they have a significantly smaller pool of role models to pick from.

Poly and non monogamous individuals cannot just turn on the TV and find examples of similar, healthy relationships in movies.Trans-identified or kink friendly individuals can’t simply pick up a book and assume that the relationships within are going to be relevant to their own situations.

When ones lifestyle does not fall within the range of what society deems normal, one must work a little harder to get the information needed to have it all make sense.

Living outside of the box requires one to have to look a little harder to find like-minded individuals. You have to be more conscientious and communicative when it comes to relationships because, let’s face it, most people assume that you rock and roll the way they do.

With that said, these “alternative lifestyle” individuals often seek out larger groups of like-minded people, thus ultimately forming a community. And, because these communities are often sub groups of sub groups, (as opposed to heterosexual and monogamous), each individual has to be more specific as to which role they identify with. The labels within the communities go much deeper than straight, gay, bi, pan sexual, trans, kink, and so on. But, there might be something good about these labels.

The great thing about not identifying with the rest of society is that you have to be crystal clear about what you want and need in a relationship. And because this is fluid and ever changing, you have no choice but to be on top of your feelings at all times, aware and not just that but you’ve got to be able to communicate it with your partner.

The kink and non monogamous communities live under doctrines of communication, consent and honesty.

Non monogamous individuals need to address things like jealousy and insecurity on a regular basis, because it comes up all the time when you’re actively seeking to engage in non-monogamous situations.

An ethical polyamorous individual should not be afraid, but should embrace the awkward and difficult conversations about being attracted to someone other than their primary partner (that is, if they even follow the dogma of “primary” and “secondary” partners, which is still based on a very monogamous frame).

Similarly, an individual who believes him/herself part of a kink community must address things like trust and safety on a regular basis. Most monogamous, heterosexuals don’t need to discuss these issues regularly, and this perpetuates a habit of avoiding important potential problems.

Although community-focused relationships exist today, they are still a great anomaly. The most common dismissal of alternative lifestyle takes the form of that common phrase, “That’s just not for me.”

And, you don’t need to enjoy BDSM, kinky sex or open relationships, but the important distinction is that these communities are not just about the sex. In fact, having a kinky or open relationship lifestyle does not automatically lead to being a part of a community that believes in openness, honesty, communication and consent.

Being part of the community means integrating oneself with like-minded people and incorporating these doctrines in your romantic and intimate practices whether you are gay, trans, monogamous, kinky, vanilla or whatever. And the truth of the matter is that our culture, with its emphasis on couple hood, love and romance, could really learn a lot about living authentically from these communities as well.

 

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Taylor Swift Mini-Me Grace VanderWaal Freaks Out Over Gift From TSwift 

Twelve-year-old Grace VanderWaal already won “America’s Got Talent,” but she never thought this would happen in her wildest dreams (Ahhh ah).

In honor of her “AGT” victory, the Taylor Swift mini-me received a surprise gift from none other than Swift herself. The “Blank Space” singer sent VanderWaal congratulatory flowers, which made the “AGT” winner understandably lose her cool.

Words can not explain how honored I am for this.. thank. You. SOOOOOOO MUCH!!!! @taylorswift13

That Swift sure can show you incredible things.

VanderWaal knows all about Swift. She’s often compared to the singer, which she told Us Weekly is “truly a blessing.” Following the gift, the 12-year-old singer and ukulele player tweeted out her thanks to Swift, writing, “Words can not explain how honored I am for this.. thank. You. SOOOOOOO MUCH!!!!”

Taylor Swift also retweeted that, so it’s doubtful VanderWaal will be able to shake this off anytime soon.

Source: Taylor Swift Mini-Me Grace VanderWaal Freaks Out Over Gift From TSwift