Always Missing Deadlines? Your Childhood Could Be To Blame. 

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Psychologists find that kids with consistent daily routines grow up with fewer time management and attentional issues.

Do you struggle with time management? Have a tough time getting things done? You may have Mom and Dad to thank for that.

Having a freewheeling, unpredictable daily home life as a child may have long-lasting negative effects, according to new research.

The University of Albany study, published in the November-December issue of the Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology, found that children who grow up with predictable daily routines are less likely to have time management or attention problems as young adults.

For the study, psychologists asked 292 undergraduates to assess the level of regularity of a variety of activities and routines from their childhood, including meals, extracurricular activities, sleeping habits and time spent with friends and family.

They found that students who reported having more consistency in their daily lives as children tended to have fewer issues with attention and time management. In other studies, the same research team showed that children with a more regular routine also have better self-control and reduced anxiety and depression as adults.

“This study is part of a broader line of research exploring the relationship between the stability of the family environment and adjustment in children, adolescents and emerging adults,” Dr. Jennifer Malatras, a psychologist at the University of Albany and the study’s lead author, told The Huffington Post. “Our research suggests greater regularity in family activities and routines is associated with fewer problems overall, and, importantly, we believe it may be possible to improve the regularity of family routines even when it may be less feasible to alter more global aspects of family stability.”

Routines are likely to contribute to a sense of security and control over one’s environment. Children who know what to expect on a day-to-day basis are more likely to feel a sense of stability in their family than those whose daily schedules are more erratic, the researchers explain.

This seems to be particularly true for children undergoing family hardships: Malatras’ previous research showed that consistency of daily activities had a positive impact on children who experienced major family changes like death or divorce.

“A family going through divorce … may be able to maintain or even increase the regularity and predictability of the family environment by ensuring that their children have consistent daily routines, such as a consistent bedtime routine or participation in extracurricular activities, which may serve as a protective factor,” she said.

A number of other psychologists have also suggested that routines give children a sense of stability and comfort, and recommend that parents establish a rhythm of daily activities and traditions early in a child’s life.

“Building routines with your children helps them feel safe,” Australian child psychologist Danielle Kaufman said in a recent interview. “They know what to expect when they go home, and it provides them with clear boundaries, expectations, and consistency.”

Of course, an obvious limitation of the current study is that it relies on young adults’ memories of their childhood rather than actual data about their childhood routines. Still, the research suggests that routine is an important area for psychologists to explore further.

“It is important to recognize the complexity of child development and the multiple influences that affect a child’s developmental trajectory,” Malatras said. “Promoting family stability during childhood and adolescence may enhance the development of skills that may be important in promoting adjustment and overall functioning.”

 

 

 

 

Source: Always Missing Deadlines? Your Childhood Could Be To Blame.

Researchers uncover algorithm which may solve human intelligenc

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The key element which separates today’s artificial intelligence (AI) systems and what we consider to be human thought and learning processes could be boiled down to no more than an algorithm.

That’s according to a recent paper published in the journal Frontiers in Systems Neuroscience, which suggests that despite the complexity of the human brain, an algorithm may be all it takes for our technological creations to mimic our way of thinking.

As reported by Business Insider, the idea that human thought can be whittled down to an algorithm lies in the “Theory of Connectivity,” which proposes that human intelligence is rooted in “a power-of-two-based permutation logic (N = 2i-1)” algorithm, capable of producing perceptions, memories, generalized knowledge and flexible actions, according to the paper.

First proposed in 2015, the theory suggests that how we acquire and process knowledge can be explained by how different neurons interact and align in separate areas of the brain.

It may also be that our brain power is based on “a relatively simple mathematical logic,” according to Dr. Joe Tsien, neuroscientist at the Medical College of Georgia at Augusta University and author of the paper.

The logic proposed, N = 2i-1, relates to how groups of similar neurons come together to handle tasks such as recognizing food, shelter, and threats. These cliques then cluster together to form functional connectivity motifs (FCMs), which handle additional ideas and conclusions.

The more complex the task, the larger the group of FCMs.

In order to test the theory and how many cliques are necessary to create an FCM, the researchers analyzed how the algorithm performed in seven different regions of the brain, all of which handled primal, basic responses such as food, shelter, and fear in lab mice and hamsters.

By offering different food combinations and monitoring brain responses, the team was able to document 15 unique combinations of neuron clusters.

Furthermore, these cliques “appear prewired,” according to the researchers, as they appeared immediately when the food choices did.

“The fundamental mathematical rule even remained largely intact when the NMDA receptor, a master switch for learning and memory, was disabled after the brain matured,” the scientists say.

Such research is an important step in improving our understanding of how the brain, and mind, works — and therefore how this scientific understanding could hypothetically be implied to future AI projects. It may not give us the key to improving our own intelligence, but if the basic components of how the brain is wired could be applied to artificial intelligence models, then who knows how far future AI will advance.

 

 

 

 

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How to Find Your Next Job: 10 Tips From Career Pros 

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First things first when you’re looking for a new job: Put down the computer. You’re not going to get hired by sending out your resume en masse to 100 LinkedIn and Monster postings.

“Assume that only 10% of everything available is actually posted online,” says Julie LaCroix, a career counselor in Newport Beach, California. If you do take a crack at that 10%, your resume likely won’t make it to the hiring manager’s desk. And even if it does, managers rarely take a chance on folks they only know on paper. Remember, hundreds of people will be applying to the same LinkedIn posting, and one of them is bound to have a personal connection to someone at the company.

A better plan: Reach out to a handful of places that really interest you, even if they don’t have postings up, and get to know people who work there. Networking is key. Tap friends, friends of friends, and friends of your parents. Connections can help get you in the door for interviews, and they give you inside information about whether you’ll actually like a company.

That’s not to say that landing your dream job will be easy. But we rounded up advice from three career experts that can make the search for your next job go smoothly, while improving your chances of an offer letter.

Before You Do Anything Hasty

Should you stay or should you go? There are three reasons to seek out a new job: you don’t like your role, you don’t like your environment, or you don’t like your industry, LaCroix says. She advises following the 80/20 rule: “If you feel the role is 80% fine, the environment is 80% fine, and the industry is 80% fine, you can stay.” Anything lower and it may be time to move on.

Don’t be dramatic. “The same job exists across industries,” LaCroix points out. You may not need to get a totally new job, but rather do the same work in a different field.

What are you good at? If you just hate what you’re doing, write down a list of work-related activities you’ve done that you enjoyed. Include things like managing your sorority’s finances back in the day. That should help you narrow down whether, say, creative work or managerial work is best for you, LaCroix adds.

Living the dream, one day. Eventually you’ll want to be in your dream job, but you don’t need that just yet. Consider a “transition job,” says Gina Marotta, a career coach in the Chicago area. Right now, you may not need a job that’s a promotion relative to your current one. It might be better for you to settle into easy work for a year while you figure out a better path.

Stay put for the time being. Don’t quit your job before you have another lined up. That’s a bad financial move. Plus, it’ll also lead prospective employers to wonder if you’ll do the same thing to them, says Kim Carbia, a career coach in the Atlanta area. And it makes you more desperate to take any old job you’re offered because you need an income.

Once You’re Ready to Leave

Tell a story. Whoever told you to pack as much as possible into your one-page resume was wrong. Instead, focus on having a unified message, notes LaCroix. If you’re aiming for managerial work, the fact that you ran your college newspaper a decade ago is more relevant than the fact that you do some creative writing at your current gig.

Think small. Last week, the Bureau of Labor Statistics reported that 78% of net employment increases in the first three months of the year came within companies that have 50 employees or fewer. Small businesses don’t have flashy names, but you can make a real impact at one. And that’s where the job growth is.

Seek advice. There’s no hard-and-fast answer for how to best sneak out of work one afternoon to go on an interview. That depends on what kind of boss you have, when your busiest hours are, and many other details unique to your workplace. An older friend or mentor can help with those types of dilemmas, Marotta says. Not only can your dad’s scientist pals advise on your general career path, but one of them might be able to help you navigate the obstacles that come up during your job search.

Speak up. Ask your interviewer questions about company culture and the specific projects you’d be working on, Carbia advises. Not only will you get to know whether the new company is a good fit, but you’ll come off as prepared and engaged.

Don’t burn bridges. Keep your emotions in check as you say goodbye to that bad boss. “In three years, your manager may be gone, and you may want to come back to the company,” Carbia explains. But it’ll be harder to do that if the company checks your file – or your Facebook feed — and sees that you lost your cool the last time you were there. –

Source: How to Find Your Next Job: 10 Tips From Career Pros 

How I Ended Up Becoming ‘The Other Woman’ 

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“I ended it, telling my husband and his wife in the process.”

We all know someone who’s been cheated on, or have firsthand experience with infidelity. Twenty-one percent of married men and between 10 and 15 percent of married women have cheated on their spouses, according to the General Social Surveyat the University of Chicago. (And those are just people willing to admit their extramarital affairs to researchers.)

There’s less research and understanding of the people they’re cheating with. Why would “the other woman” (or “other man”) want to be involved with someone already in a relationship?

Below, seven women share their unique stories of becoming the third party in someone’s relationship ― sometimes unwittingly, sometimes knowingly.

“I knew he was married. He knew I was married as well. We were friends before we married our spouses and soon lost touch after getting married. Ten years into my marriage, I found him on Facebook. He was as unhappy as I was. He didn’t want to leave his wife, so I opted to be a side chick. He made all the promises to me about ‘one day.’ After a while, the guilt of it all ate away at me. I ended it, telling my husband and his wife in the process.” ― Krista R.

“He was in a relationship, not married. He was with another woman and both of us simultaneously had no idea. Then I found out and he said he would break up with her, which I believed he did… but he didn’t.” ― Daniella B.

“He was the head of the department where I worked (an investment bank) and I didn’t report directly to him but we had some work interaction. We started as friends although the first words he ever said to me could be construed as ‘flirty’: At my first work function, I got tipsy and got lost looking for the restroom: I bumped into him and said ‘Who are you?’ He replied, ‘Who do you want me to be?’ I cringed later when I found out he was a bigwig. I knew he was in a relationship and had a baby with the woman; I can’t remember how I knew but it was the reason I held back for a very long time. He was always open about his situation once we ‘started’ our relationship. First we were friends and at some point, we crossed the line between friends to lovers and then there was no going back. We had fallen in love. It’s a long time ago now but I still consider him one of my great loves. I have great memories and no regrets.” ― Reena K.

“While I found my co-worker ‘K’ attractive, I knew he was married and it was clear that we were friends and that’s all it would be. One day, we started chatting about the Vietnam War. ‘K’ had been in Vietnam and we had a long conversation about his experiences and his wounds, emotional and physical; he had been shot and part of his chest had been blown away. His story touched me and I felt incredible compassion for him. I don’t recall exactly when or how the relationship switched gears from friends to lovers, but I recall him telling me that his marriage was unhappy, that they were only staying together until their child graduated from college, and that they had given each other license to have sexual partners on the side. Call me naive but I believed him. For a few months, we’d get together once a week but I never saw him as someone I’d want to be with. We cared for each other but there was no talk of anything beyond what we had. Eventually I fell for another man, someone who chided me for falling prey to a cliche. ‘You’re wrong,’ I’d tell the new guy. ‘‘’K’ and I were different.’ In any case, I stopped seeing ‘K’ anyway.” ― Vicki L.

“I deliberately and intentionally picked him. I needed to find someone who had as much skin in the game as I did (married with kids). He was someone who I knew was interested in me prior to my marriage. I knew he was married but I strongly suspected he would be game as we hadn’t seen each other for years but he always kept in contact. I had moved back into the city where he and his family lived. I simply called him and asked him to meet for a drink. He vacillated at first ― I really shouldn’t and so on. Finally, I said, ‘Look don’t come, I don’t care, it’s just drinks.’ He met me later that night. At the end of the night, it was him who stopped me while I was walking away and kissed me. Our relationship lasted seven years. To this day, he doesn’t know he was intentionally chosen.” ― Anne J.

“In a nutshell how did it happen? I was lonely and married to an addict. I reached out on Craigslist, to simply have someone in the same boat to talk to. I didn’t care if it was a man or woman; I wasn’t looking to have an affair. I never hid the fact I was married. Mainly because, like I said, I wasn’t looking to cheat. Conversations led to genuinely caring about this stranger. Caring led to wanting to know more over time. Time led to really getting to know each other. We had conversations that may have crossed the line but is just talking to someone cheating? Yes and no. If our spouses knew what was going on, I’d say no, but they didn’t know, so it was a betrayal. We finally met and things got complicated. There were feelings we couldn’t ignore. Both of us had issues with our spouses, we both realized our needs weren’t being met at home but calling off our marriages was impossible since we both had kids. We’ve physically stopped seeing each other these days but we talk often. We’ve never said goodbye.” ― Melanie M. 

“The guy was my ex. We had just completed the remodel of our house when he decided to break up with me [and move out.] He said he loved me but he needed time to work on his issues and still wanted to be friends. Two months later, I had plumbing problems and started staying at a mutual friend’s house down the street. My ex called me upset that I would be there. I pointed out that if it bothered him he could have invited me to stay in his guest bedroom. (We were an on-again, off-again couple but I had stopped dating him a few months earlier so we were officially ‘off again.’) He said I couldn’t because he had a friend staying for the week. Upon questioning, he admitted she was actually his girlfriend and had been living there with him for over a year. He then said all the typical things: It’s not what it seems, she’s not really my girlfriend. One night a few weeks later, he was still texting trying to get me to come back. I asked him where his girlfriend was. His answer: ‘Right next to me, asleep in bed.’ That was that. Oh, and that mutual friend I was staying with? He’s now my husband. Everything happens for a reason. Big thank you to the universe for that leak and opening my eyes to possibilities.” ― Michelle D. 

Source: How I Ended Up Becoming ‘The Other Woman’

This ‘Unicorn Tears’ Lipstick Is Peak ’90s Beauty Goals 

Whip out your Caboodles, people. The ‘90s and its beauty trends are here to stay.

Too Faced’s Unicorn Tears lipstick shade is seeing another rise in popularity after it initially debuted this time last year. Not only is the $22 hue exactly what you would expect unicorn tears to look like, but it’s exactly what your shimmering dreams of yesteryear are made of.

What appears as blue and purple tones in the tube glides on as an “iridescent shimmer” that’s frostier than Justin Timberlake’s *NSYNC hair.

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The frosted lip has experienced a high fashion resurgence in recent years. Lest you think it’s a trend that only looks good in a professional photo, perhaps these magical Instagrams can convince you otherwise.

Head to Too Faced, Ulta or HSN to shop.

Source: This ‘Unicorn Tears’ Lipstick Is Peak ’90s Beauty Goals

A Lot Of Women Are Shaving Their Faces. Here’s What You Need To Know. 

So you want to try shaving your face, eh?

Many women have long touted facial shaving, an at-home, less intense version of dermaplaning. It is the practice of using a razor to shave the peach fuzz and hair off of your face in pursuit of hair removal and smoother, exfoliated skin.

Perhaps you’ve heard that Marilyn Monroe and Elizabeth Taylor were fans of the practice, or that your makeup will go on more smoothly without your peach fuzz. Watch enough YouTube videos and it can all really start to sound appealing, even if you’ve never given a second thought about the hair on your face.

There is no shortage of online resources singing the praises of face shaving. But there are, of course, plenty of questions to be asked about the procedure.

The first fear many women have is that shaved hair will grow back faster, darker or coarser. Dr. Deborah Palmer, who co-founded the Dermatologist’s Association of New York and has her own line of skin care products, told The Huffington Post that “hair will not grow back thicker or faster. Shaving does not change the number of hair follicles in the skin or the rate of hair growth.”

That notion rings true for people across the board. Stephanie Kaulesar of hair removal salon Spruce & Bond once told InStyle that thicker hair is an illusion “caused by the razor cutting your hair off at its thickest point.” Amy McMichael, chair of the Department of Dermatology at Wake Forest Baptist Health, told Scientific American back in 2014 that a lack of “exposure to pollutants, chemicals and the sun” and the shape of stubble can make hairs appear darker and coarser, but are actually unchanged in regrowth. In fact, long term hair removal can end up reducing regrowth due to “repeated trauma.”

As far as methods go, the jury is out on the best one. Many bloggers swear by the Tinkle eyebrow razor, which is used on dry skin in short, swift motions at a 45-degree angle. Palmer said she recommends “electric or battery operated shavers.” Kate Somerville, who famously divulged that many celebrity clients favor the method, uses “her own brand of face wash” and “a Gillette Mach3” once a week, according to the New York Times.

Larkin Clark, a New York City-based lifestyle and beauty writer and editor, said that after trying two different tools ― first a men’s razor and then the smaller eyebrow razor ― it was a combo of the smaller razor with lathered up shaving cream that she found the most successful, though she wasn’t ever totally sold.

“Overall it wasn’t enough of a change to keep up the regimen for the long-term. It also made my face sensitive to some skincare products, which was especially tricky when I’d need to put treatments on acne-affected areas that couldn’t be shaved while avoiding the freshly shaved areas around them,” she said.

Whatever tool you choose to do the job, it’s what comes before and after that really makes a difference. Celebrity makeup artist Kari Bauce recommends washing first with a cream cleanser, and using some toner as antiseptic immediately after. “Wait at least an hour before applying any foundation, makeup or moisturizer that isn’t specifically formulated for sensitive skin as the area may be prone to irritation immediately after shaving.”

One blogger we came across, Brye Ashley, admits to having sensitive skin. She shared photos of a bad reaction she had after not taking the proper steps after shaving her face.

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The most trying aspect of this process appears to be maintenance. Nearly every article about it insists it’s something you have to keep up with once you start, and that people with sensitive skin should be cautious. “I advise patients with active acne to wait until the acne has resolved or improved before they shave. Shaving over active acne lesions can cut or inflame the skin and risk infection,” Palmer said.

If you ask us, the most important thing to consider is for whom you’re shaving your face. A quite frankly insufferable viral video from 2011 features three women, including former Bachelor contestant Michelle Money, and kicks off by saying that women should never, under any circumstance, have hair on their faces.

Money, who does in fact have beautiful skin, has gone on to make quite a few videos in which she shows off her face shaving methods and explains that people who don’t think they need to get rid of their facial hair are “lying to yourself and to your husband and/or boyfriend who is secretly pissed off that you have a mustache.

Eye. Roll.

If you are uncomfortable with your facial hair and you want to do something about it and you don’t have acne or extremely sensitive skin, then sure, yes, shaving your face can be a desirable choice.

Just please, for the love of Gillette, remember that much like anything else in life, that choice is yours and yours alone.

Source: A Lot Of Women Are Shaving Their Faces. Here’s What You Need To Know. 

Dresses That Flatter Every Body Type 

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When the holiday parties roll around, you can’t just put on any old thing. You’re going to be visiting old friends and family you haven’t seen in a while, many of which will scream, “Hey lady, let’s take a picture!” While your goal shouldn’t necessarily be to impress everyone in the room, you definitely want to feel confident.

That’s why we did a little searching and uncovered the most flattering dress trends for every body type. Since the weather is taking a turn for the cold, these silhouettes all have cozy details, like turtlenecks or longer hemlines. And, all it takes is a few simple accessories to jazz them up for a get together. So relax — have a glass of champagne. Regardless of whether you’ve got a small bust, are petite, or were blessed with a booty, when you’ve got on one of these styles, girl, you’ll look good.

 

 

 

 

Source: Dresses That Flatter Every Body Type